10 Easy Tips for the Relaxed Mom
Let’s be real—being a mom is amazing, but it can also be completely overwhelming at times. Between the never-ending laundry, snack requests, and trying to keep little humans alive, it’s easy to feel stretched thin and worn out. But guess what? Life as a mom doesn’t have to be stressful. In fact, I’d argue that it shouldn’t be. If you’re a relaxed, fun-loving mom who wants to enjoy motherhood without all the chaos, you’re in the right place.
Here are my 10 simple, sanity-saving tips to help make life as a mom easier, calmer, and way more enjoyable.
1. Let Go of the Mom Guilt
First things first—stop feeling guilty about everything. Didn’t cook a Pinterest-worthy meal? Who cares! Forgot to sign up for the class volunteer list? It’s fine! Your kids won’t remember whether you packed an organic bento box; they’ll remember the time you spent laughing with them. Give yourself some grace.
2. Embrace the Power of “Good” instead of “great”
Not every meal has to be homemade, not every activity has to be educational, and not every moment has to be Instagram-worthy. Perfection is overrated and frankly, quite boring. Find the balance that works for you and embrace the magic of good rather than great. Your kids don’t need a perfect mom—they just need a happy one. Life is a lot more fun when everything doesn’t have to be perfect.
3. Create a No-Fuss Morning Routine
Mornings set the tone for the whole day. I’ve written before about my tips for a better morning because I believe so deeply in the power of a good morning to have a good day. Make yours as stress-free as possible by setting out clothes the night before, prepping easy breakfasts (hello, overnight oats!), packing lunches, and keeping a simple checklist. The fewer decisions you have to make before coffee, the better!
4. Declutter Like a Chill Mom
A cluttered home can create a cluttered mind. But here’s the trick—don’t stress about making your home look perfect. Just focus on keeping things functional. If it doesn’t serve a purpose or bring joy, toss it. Bonus: fewer toys = less to clean up and less to keep organized. We have three kids 6 and under and we have been actively getting rid of toys. There comes a point where it’s just too many toys. Less is more, so start to simplify your life by getting rid of unnecessary items.
5. Find Your Mom COMMUNITY
Motherhood is so much easier when you have a solid support system. Find friends who get it—whether it’s through school, mom groups, or online communities. Vent, laugh, swap tips, and remind each other that you’re doing great! Also, one of my tricks in motherhood is to never take advice from someone with fewer kids than you. I know, I know, it sounds crazy, but I swear by this tip. Every time I’ve had another child, I quickly realized that I did not understand the life of those with more kids than me. At this point, with three kids, I don’t take advice from anyone with less than three kids. It has made my mental health so much better. Gone are the random bits of advice to “go screen-free!” or to do some super simple hack that fixes everything. Life gets harder with every child you have, and you have to do what works for you. Make sure those you get advice from understand your situation.
6. Make “Me Time” a Non-Negotiable
You deserve time to recharge. Whether it’s a bubble bath, reading a book, or escaping to Target alone, schedule time for yourself guilt-free. Happy moms make happy families, so taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential.
7. Lower the Bar on Meal Planning
Feeding a family doesn’t have to be so stressful. I’m not sure it’ll ever be easy, so just stick to simple, go-to meals that everyone loves, use grocery delivery or pickup to save time, and don’t be afraid of frozen foods. A fed family is a happy family. I love grocery shopping, but with three kids it’s nearly impossible, so I utilize grocery pickup every week. I’ve also stopped worrying so much about what the meals are and have focused more on what everyone will eat. Sometimes that means making the kids a meal and eating something else with my husband later. We enjoy more variety and our kids require earlier meal times. Being flexible to maintain happiness in the home has been a priority and has helped us have more enjoyable dinner times.
Also, it’s okay to question why we do the things we do and why expectations are what they are. Sometimes, society has rules that don’t make sense and it’s fine to break those rules. For example: why is it okay to serve our kids the same thing they love for breakfast every day but it’s not okay to do the same for dinner? That’s a rule I willingly break to make my life more enjoyable.
8. Say “No” Without Guilt
You don’t have to be the room mom, bake homemade cupcakes for every event, or attend every social gathering. If it doesn’t bring you joy, it’s okay to say no. Protect your time and energy—your sanity will thank you! I know my strengths and weaknesses, and I pick things that I am good at so it doesn’t add stress to my life. Baking cookies for a class party? No. Buying cookies for a class party? Yes!
9. Make Chores a Family Affair
Why should you do all the work? Get the whole family involved! Even toddlers can help with small tasks like putting away toys. Make it fun—play music, set a timer, or turn it into a game. Less work for you, more life skills for them—it’s a win-win.
10. Laugh More, Stress Less
Motherhood is messy, unpredictable, and sometimes downright chaotic—but it’s also filled with hilarious moments. When things go sideways, take a deep breath and laugh it off. Life’s too short to stress over spilled milk (or spilled glitter).
Life as a mom doesn’t have to be an endless cycle of stress and exhaustion. You can enjoy motherhood by letting go of striving for perfection, simplifying routines, and making time for yourself. Remember—you’re doing an amazing job.
Now, go grab a coffee, ignore the laundry for a bit, and soak up all the fun, silly, and beautiful moments of mom life.
Rose
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